Wow! What a difference a year can bring! It’s wild how its been a year since my world was turned upside down. I knew I would have different milestones I’d face, but I couldn’t comprehend or even realize how freeing and powerful it would be to forgive and move on. Here is a letter I wrote as to give myself some advice…because I felt no one even remotely understood how I was feeling. Sure I had tons of support and an outpouring of love for me and my family, but to be understood was a different feeling. So yep, I wrote to myself and left myself some much needed advice…of which was perfect timing coming up on this year mark since my divorce.
You are stronger than you may realize! There is a power that you possess and it may seem like you gain strength every day, because you are! You have an inner strength that allows you to love, care for and nurture yourself and others more and more. Be patient with yourself. Love yourself. Honor who you are and who you are becoming. Forgive yourself easily. Let go naturally. Know in your heart of hearts you gave everything you could to your marriage and family and you can not control others choices, especially the choice to love or stay in love. Loving how you do is special, not to be taken for granted and misused. Please know how much more love is available to and for you. Being single and alone (at times when your not in an awesome relationship with a man who really knows how to love and care for you) is far more rewarding than being in a marriage where you are alone. I can not think of a more lonely feeling than being in a relationship or marriage where someone doesn’t love YOU! That is lonely, not being single. Single doesn’t mean lonely. It’s not fun in anyway to be the one putting forth effort and love and not having that given back. Hold to what you know you are worth. And if you don’t know how or want more understanding for yourself, take time in stillness to discover this highest of experience.
Love yourself because you’re worth it and you’ll attract someone who adds to your life in all areas…not to fix you in any way. It exists and it’s wonderful…well worth the wait and effort of loving yourself.
Today is a great day to love someone just a little more…and maybe that someone is YOU! STAY STRONG!!!